Choosing the Right Card

Posted on 02/28/20 by Paulette Fewell

Paulette Fewell has been working with Encouragement Ministries for nine months. She has been a wonderful addition to our work and I continue to be deeply grateful for her leadership and her gifted service.  Recently, I had a conversation with her about Valentine’s day. As we talked, her mind became reflective about how carefully chosen cards were a metaphor for the way Pat and I attempt to do our work. I asked her to share those reflections with you in this month’s report.

“A few days before Valentine’s, I took some time to look for cards for loved ones.  I would pick up a card, read it and then discard it – too silly, too mushy, too immature, not appropriate, and on and on.  As I was going through that process, it reminded me of when I was in elementary school and we had to have Valentine’s cards for every child in our class.  It was the same ordeal each year as I searched for the right card for each friend – too silly, too mushy, not appropriate and on and on.  I didn’t want to give a Valentine to a boy that might imply that I “liked” him and I was afraid that I would offend a friend by giving one friend a “better” card than another friend.” 

As Paulette and I talked we realized that the same thing sometimes happens to Pat and me as we visit patients, families, and people in crisis.  We want to show love and concern to them, but we don’t want to intrude in their lives or say or do anything that could be considered inappropriate.  We’ve learned through the years that every patient and family have different needs and expectations from us.  It’s a fine line from providing the love and care that they need and over or under serving their current needs.

For this reason, I kneel before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Eph. 3:14-21

As with me finding the right card for Jackie. and Paulette finding the right cards for her loved ones, Pat and I want to find the right balance of visits, calls, cards and prayers for the patients and families that we serve.  We covet your prayers for this ministry, and would welcome any monetary gifts that you can provide.

We ask that you join us in prayer for the individuals and families that we serve, and that we’ll always remember that we’re in this ministry to serve the Lord and the people who need us, whatever their current status in life.

We exist through the generous financial support of the friends of Encouragement Ministries. If we can help you in any way, please don’t hesitate to call us. 

Russ Corley, Executive Director




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